HI I’M ALLESANDA

Portrait of Allesanda Tolomei-Hard, wellness and relationship coach.

A.K.A.

Are You Experiencing Hard Times?

I’ve been there too.

I help people create a healthy, joyful, and fulfilling life with tools and strategies that go way beyond self-help books and your best friend’s advice. (We know she means well—but she isn’t able to help you create lasting change the way a coach can.)

Let me guess…

You’re here because you’re looking for answers. 

  • You’ve tried traditional therapy, Lexapro, yoga, and podcasts but you still can’t manage the stress and anxiety you feel. 

  • You struggle to sit quietly with your thoughts but being alone feels uncomfortable, as your mind is relentlessly occupied with a never-ending to-do list and negative thoughts.

  • You find yourself caught up in other people's chaos— taking on their stress and trying to help them without getting anywhere.

  • You feel hurt from past experiences and it’s keeping you from connecting with others. 

  • You’re more than ready for the answers that will change how you feel once and for all. 

    You’re not alone.

Every day, I work with clients who are right where you are now.  And I was once there myself. 

Let’s create a plan to help you thrive through hard times

Wellness coaching session focused on anxiety relief and stress management.

Hear’s why I am so passionate about helping you relieve anxiety… 

My life was full of chaos. I struggled with extreme anxiety, I abused alcohol, and I felt like my life was doomed. 

My father has been chronically ill my whole life. On top of that, 7 years ago, my mother was diagnosed with terminal cancer. I was shocked. My mental and physical health was not well, and after my mother’s cancer diagnosis, I went off the deep end. 

I was severely anxious and depressed all the time. I knew I needed to change, but I didn’t know how.

I decided to go to a life coach for help. I had never told anyone the truth about my lifestyle decisions or how I was feeling inside. I was afraid of being honest with anyone. For some reason, this day was different. I was open with this woman. I learned new coping mechanisms to handle life on life’s terms. I began to discover who I was and what I wanted again. 

My mother passed away almost a year after I decided to change my life. A year after my mother’s death, my house was destroyed in a wildfire. Times were challenging, but I continued to do deep internal work. I walked through the pain and anxiety I felt instead of running. 

Today, my happiness is no longer dependent on external circumstances. I have learned to go with the flow, let go, and feel at ease, even when things are hard.

I started coaching women and saw their lives transform too. I witnessed them creating more harmony in their lives. There was a clear path and a simple solution to solve problems that had once made their lives totally unmanageable. 

You deserve a joyful life without fear.

This work has changed my life and the lives of others just like you—who I work with.

The tools I will share through The Phoenix Project and 1:1 coaching are the same tools I that helped me transform my life challenges and experience peace.

I know you can do this! 

I am available if you have any questions or need support.

WHY I DO WHAT I DO

I believe you can’t choose what happens to you but you can choose what you do about it.

I believe you can stop people-pleasing without guilt.

I believe you can love without losing yourself.

What Clients are saying

  • Happy client sharing her success story after wellness coaching.

    "The Phoenix Project helped me stop behaviors that were interfering with family communication. By letting go of control, I feel that I am calmer and can listen better and more calmly express what I want. I also feel that the support and encouragement really pushed me into the middle of the river where I was able to feel and see the good results more easily. I would recommend this to anyone at any age if you are ready to do the work. Really loved the program."

    Nina B.

  • Happy client sharing her success story after wellness coaching.

    "Allesanda creates and holds a safe space for you during The Phoenix Project. Her kind heart and relatable stories helped me overcome fears and I've grown into a better me.”

    Laura G.

  • Happy client sharing her success story after wellness coaching.

    "I have known Allesanda for 5 years and am beyond grateful to have found her. I was struggling in some relationships with friends and our work together helped met to create healthy, yet loving boundaries and stick to them. I am still using these methods today and have found that all my relationships have benefitted from this practice. I look forward to our continued work together."

    Lisa F.

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