In this episode, I'm switching things up a bit by sharing something special with you.

I've had a few requests for it, so I'm excited to introduce a guided meditation session aimed at helping you build a stronger, more trusting relationship with yourself.

This meditation isn't your typical podcast episode; it's a journey towards boosting resilience and finding inner peace amidst life's ups and downs. By practicing this meditation, you'll tap into a wellspring of strength and optimism that can infuse your daily life with a sense of calmness.

And speaking of empowerment, I'm thrilled to announce the upcoming How To Be Your Own Best Friend Workshop, happening on Sunday, April 14th, 2024, right here in Napa, CA. This workshop is all about exploring the transformative power of mindfulness and meditation, all while fostering a deep friendship with yourself.

Now, you might be wondering who this workshop is for. Well, it's designed with people who struggle with people-pleasing and perfectionism in mind. If you find yourself constantly putting others' needs before your own or striving for unattainable standards of perfection, this workshop is tailor-made for you.

So, don't forget to mark April 14th on your calendar, and be sure to visit my website or Instagram for all the registration details. I can't wait to embark on this journey of self-discovery with you!

Tell me, have you ever found yourself in these situations?

Have you ever made a commitment to cut back on sweets or alcohol, only to end up bingeing late at night and feeling guilty the next day?

Have you ever strayed from your health plan mid-day, thinking, 'I'll start fresh tomorrow,' instead of forgiving yourself and moving forward?

Have you ever ghosted someone in a relationship because things were going too well, and you were afraid of getting hurt? Or felt like you were 'too much' in a relationship, overdoing communication out of insecurity?

If any of this resonates with you, you're not alone.

In this week's podcast episode, 'Overcoming Self-Sabotage: The REAL Reasons You Feel Stuck,' we're delving into the invisible roadblocks that are hindering your confidence, goals, and relationships.

In this episode, you'll learn:

>>> The biggest mistake people make when chasing their goals.

Have you ever felt fired up at the start, only to lose momentum before reaching the finish line? Find out why.

>>> How perfectionism hinders your progress.

Your inner critic tends to see things in black and white, making it easy to abandon progress after a single mistake.

>>> Why people-pleasing complicates habit changes.

It's not just about your discomfort; you may worry about others' reactions. Prioritizing their needs over your own makes it hard to stick to positive changes.

>>> Practical tips for confident decision-making and boosting self-confidence, so you can create the life you desire inside and out.

And stay tuned until the end for a special offer that will help you bid farewell to people-pleasing and perfectionism for good.

Let’s talk about the raw challenges of stepmom life, the REAL secret to having a perfect body, and the battle with perfectionism.

This week on the Hard Times No More Relationship Podcast, I have my good friend and personal trainer Laisha Ames on the show.

Laisha's not just a personal trainer—she's also a stepmom extraordinaire and a pro at helping women tackle body image issues, perfectionism, and the juggling act of self-care.

Join us as we take a deep dive into the raw challenges of stepmom life, what it really means to have a perfect body, the balance between active stress relief and reflective stillness, and the internal battle with perfectionism.

This is a BIG topic for myself and all women trying to find the balance between caring for others and caring for ourselves, and Laisha is the best personal trainer because of her approach.

She’s real.

She understands that no one has the perfect life or the perfect family. We all have our struggles, and we are all doing the best we can with what we’ve got.

She knows the importance of community—reminding us that we are all on this fitness journey together.

And she has the experience and knowledge to help you reach your fitness goals, even from the comfort of your home!

Her mission is to help people truly feel good about themselves so that they can look in the mirror and love what they see.

In this episode, you’ll hear about:

- Practical tips for handling challenging relationships with bio parents in blended families.

- Actionable steps to kick perfectionism to the curb and embrace your unique journey.

- The secret to loving the skin you are in and the tools that will get you there.

- Why caring for your mental health is far more important than any number on the scale.

- Laisha's game-changing virtual fitness program, designed to fit seamlessly into your busy life.

And so much more!

Tell me, do you ever catch yourself saying "YES" when you really want to shout “NO WAY!” And run in the opposite direction because someone has asked you to take on ANOTHER COMMITMENT or help them out, and your plate is already beyond full?

But you can’t bear to say “no,” even though you know you should.

…You don’t want to let them down.

Or

…You know it will just be easier if you do it.

And, once again, someone else’s needs make it to the top of your priority list.

Well, guess what?

You might just be a people-pleaser, and this is probably no surprise to you.

In this week’s podcast episode, we're diving into this whole people-pleasing thing.

We're getting real and talking about why the people-pleasing cycle happens over and over again, how it's messing with your life (in more ways than you realize), and most importantly, how the heck to stop for good.

In this episode, you’ll hear…

>>> Effective ways to stop covering up your true feelings or agreeing to stuff you don't have the time for and don’t even want to do.

>>> The key reasons why you're always putting everyone else’s needs first.

>>> How to let go of guilt, without needing to say “yes” all the time, with some seriously simple strategies to help you set those boundaries, honor your own needs, and start loving yourself a little more.

>>> The fine line between generosity and healthy compromise versus straight-up people-pleasing. It's all about finding that sweet spot where you're taking care of yourself while still being there for others.

So if you’re ready to take back control of your time, your energy, and your freakin' life, then buckle up 'cause it's time to kick people-pleasing to the curb and start living your life on your terms.

It’s easy to get caught up in showing love to others.

But what about you?

I’m not a mind reader, but there’s a good chance you're a natural giver, spreading love and support throughout the year.

But amidst all that giving, are you taking time to show yourself some love too?

In the spirit of Valentine’s Day, this podcast episode is all about self-love—made just for you to help you cultivate a deeper connection with yourself so you can feel as amazing as you are!

And… You wanna know the biggest robber of self-love that I see clients struggle with?

Perfectionism.

Perfectionism might be getting in the way of your self-love journey and the incredible impact that strengthening your relationship with yourself can have on your life.

By practicing more self-love, you will naturally surround yourself with supportive, loving people because, remember—others are a reflection, a mirror, and you attract what you put out into the universe.

So, if you're ready to level up your self-love and break down the barriers keeping you from fully loving yourself, this episode is for you.

In this episode, you’ll hear:

- 5 simple, actionable ways to practice self-love.

- How seeking external validation can lead to unhealthy patterns like people-pleasing.

- The transformative power of changing your relationship with yourself.

- Journaling prompts to guide you on your self-love journey.

- The damaging effects of perfectionism on your relationships.

- How a loving connection with yourself can bring more peace and joy into your daily life.

So go ahead, give yourself the gift of self-love.

You deserve it!

Do you have a family member who triggers you?

Or unresolved tension with your significant other?

If the answer is “YES!” this episode is for you.

In this podcast episode, Detaching With Love: Navigating Stressful Family Relationships, you’ll learn a simple and powerful approach to navigating hard times in your relationships with grace.

ANNDD at the end of this episode, I’ll guide you through a short exercise you can use TODAY to create energetic boundaries with anyone who causes you stress so you’ll be equipped to feel less drained after spending time with them.

If you're like many of the people I’ve worked with, maintaining peace in your relationships is almost as important as the air you breathe. And you may find yourself sacrificing your needs and well-being to preserve the peace because you just want others to be happy (or it’s just easier that way.)

This can lead to a habit of bottling up stress, feeling fatigued from interactions that repeatedly don’t go well, and believing change isn’t possible because the other person isn’t willing to do “the work.”

You may not believe it… But in my experience, it is possible to detach in a way that helps your relationship grow rather than creating harm or more tension.

This can happen through the practice of detachment.

Detachment often gets a bad rap for sounding final and cold but, in this episode, you’ll discover how to use detachment to heal unhealthy relationship patterns because sometimes you have to take a step back to get some clarity and gain two steps forward toward progress.

It’s time to reclaim your energy by establishing kind and loving boundaries that lead to more fulfilling relationships.

Tune in to call in more peace of mind!

Do you ever struggle with that uncomfortable feeling—the kind that refuses to let you take a relaxing deep breath?

This week on The Hard Times No More Relationship Podcast, we're diving into a topic that affects more than 20% of people in the U.S.: Anxiety.

Your Inner Ecosystem: Anxiety is a symptom on the surface of something much deeper. Find out why anxiety sticks around and how you can embark on the journey to lasting relief because, trust me, I’ve been there.

In this episode, I open up about my journey with anxiety, sharing personal experiences, strategies, and the importance of internal work.

We’ll also talk about…

>>> Understanding the message behind your anxiety.

>>> The secret to creating a non-anxious life.

>>> Where to focus your energy to create the right conditions for healing.

From healing emotional wounds to finding peace within, we cover it all.

Remember, you're not alone on this journey. Many have found peace and a deeper connection with themselves through these practices.

Have you ever made a New Year's resolution and found yourself overwhelmed and feeling like a failure on February 1st?

You started excited with a lot of momentum, but things got hard, and your inner critic told you, “You don’t have the time, the money, or the energy, so you might as well quit now.” You gave up and reverted to your old ways, feeling stuck in your patterns, even though your heart desired change.

Instead, on December 31st, 2024, imagine yourself reflecting over the past year… You not only met your goals but exceeded them.

Along the way, you found fulfillment and a deeper connection with yourself. Imagine feeling confident in your ability to accomplish whatever you put your mind to.

In this episode, I will show you…

>> The secret sauce to following through with your goals (whether it’s to have joyful visits with your mother or to stop binge eating cookies after a stressful day.)

>> The hidden reasons behind failure—why real, lasting change is so hard.

>> How to build a truly fulfilling life, one goal at a time.

Whether it's a New Year's resolution to slow down, time to prioritize your needs, or a vow to declutter your house Marie Kondo style (asking yourself if each item sparks joy), Mrs. Hard's got your back.

Remember those childhood pinky promises, swearing to always be friendsor never tell a secret?

Well, this week, we're bringing a grown-up version of this to tackle winter stress with Dr. Nina Beatie, and we'd love for you to be a part of it!

Dr. Beatie is not just a chiropractor; she's a true go-getter, always exploring and eager to get to the heart of any issue.

In this episode, Dr. Beatie shares insights from what she observes with her patients and draws from her personal experience in stress management.

During the winter of 2019, I thought it was a brilliant idea to train for a marathon.

Result?

A back injury. (I still can’t run without being reminded of it.)

Yep, not my brightest moment.

Dr. Beatie has her own tales of winter woes, which inspired our winter pact.

We realized we both had a knack for overdoing it during this season and needed to try something different.

Our rebellion against shorter days led to HIIT workouts, skiing, and ambitious New Year fitness resolutions. Sound familiar?

So, like two 8-year-olds, we created a winter pact—complete with a secret handshake—promising to slow down and be mindful of our bodies and the season.

Guess what?

It worked like magic.

No winter injuries AND a lot less stress!

Now, we're inviting you to join us.

>>>Listen to this week's episode to hear about THE WINTER PACT!

Just tune in to the podcast episode, and after, let us know what you want to pledge.

A little community support goes a long way, right?

AND change is so much easier with buddies.

As a community, we can navigate the winter without stress-induced injuries.

Listen to our winter pact story, get inspired, and pledge to bring some nap times, self-love, and gentle letting go to your winter season.

Imagine spring with renewed energy—totally injury-free!

Can't wait to hear your thoughts and pledges!

As promised, the Q&A podcast episode is ready for your ears. 🎧

In this episode, I’ve tackled your relatable questions, addressing topics ranging from...

>>>Seasonal depression.

>>>Handling family members struggling with alcoholism.

>>>Adjusting to BIG life challenges.

>>> Leaving toxic relationships.

>>>Deciphering hidden messages beneath health issues.

>>>Navigating grief.

>>>And calling in positive life changes.

If you're riding the waves of life and could use some insights, laughter, and a sprinkle of wisdom, this episode is for you!

I'm here to support you on your journey and provide tools to guide you towards a peaceful, secure, and fulfilling life.

Your journey matters.

Together, we're creating a space where everyone's experiences are valued, and you can rest assured you are not alone.

Today's episode could be a game-changer for you. It's packed with insights that can shift the way you perceive and handle control in your life.

In this episode, Mrs. Hard dives deep into key questions to ask when you're feeling stuck in the realms of control. It's not just about strategies but a profound exploration into the roots of control, addressing fears, red flags, and finding peace of mind amidst life's chaos.

Here's a sneak peek at what you'll discover:

>>> How to tap into the feminine divine energy and go with the flow.

>>> Unveiling where control is really coming from and overcoming it.

>>> Transforming chaos into serenity and unlocking the surprises the universe has in store.

>>> The power of asking yourself the right questions for personal and work life.

>>> The inside-out approach to life and why thinking differently about our problems is crucial.

But here's the twist: It's not just theory; Mrs. Hard prompts you to take action. She encourages listeners to explore questions like:

- Are you trying to control people, places, and things?

- What would your life look like in a place of acceptance instead of control?

- Are your fears driving the bus, or is it faith?

- Are your expectations setting you up for disappointment?

Listening to this episode could be a turning point, offering insights that may help you let go of control, find more strength, stability, and self-love.

So, if you've ever felt lost, overwhelmed, or caught in the web of control, this episode is tailor-made for you. Give it a listen and let me know what you think!

How are you feeling about the holidays this year?

Are you excited about the lights, the gatherings, the yummy food, and the holiday cheer?

Or is there a sense of anxiety creeping in?

Because you know your to-do list is about to triple, you are grieving the loss of a loved one, or you know you’ll have to see Uncle Eddy—he totally creeps you out.

For a long time, my holidays were full of chaos.

My dad lived in an assisted living facility and would plead with us to let him move back home (which wasn’t possible because he needed full-time care.)

My mom would buy gifts we couldn’t afford.

Family gatherings felt like interrogation chambers, with questions about my personal life and job situation magnifying the areas where things weren't going well.

Despite facing these hard times, I discovered simple methods to navigate grief, alleviate stress, and craft a bulletproof strategy for turning anxiety into ease during those tricky family moments.

I'm excited to share these insights with you!

In today's episode, we dive into:

>>> The Rock Myth: Ever feel like you're the glue holding everything together? Let's chat about the misconception that sacrificing your needs makes everyone happy.

>>> Tips on handling your inner perfectionist and embracing your loving, self-compassionate side.

>>> The art of setting the right boundaries to keep your energy intact during family gatherings.

>>> Insights on injecting more joy into your holiday season.

Tune in to this week’s episode and let me know your thoughts.

If this episode inspired you in some way, mind dropping a quick review?

Your thoughts can guide others to discover and get something meaningful from it too!

5 key questions you must answer before you decide if it's a good idea to help your loved one out financially.

Money is so much more than just numbers in your bank account.

Money has the incredible power to shine a spotlight on your deepest fears, and sometimes we make the mistake of attaching our self-worth to how much money we have or don’t have. It’s one of the ways we try to define our value. Emotions are intertwined with every dollar, every cent.

We often find ourselves wanting to be "perfect" in the eyes of others. We want to be the perfect daughter, the perfect son, or the perfect friend. We just want to be a good person. But lending or giving money to a loved one can be a tricky path to navigate when our need for validation is influencing our decision.

We may start with good intentions, but if we aren’t careful, our good deeds can spiral into resentment.

It's essential to get clear on your emotional motives before you make any financial decisions so you can avoid unintended harm in your relationships.

In this episode, you’ll uncover…

5 crucial questions you should be asking yourself before you give money to a loved one. 🤔

How to sidestep sneaky resentments or regret down the road. 🚀

Understand the emotional dynamics of money and why it isn’t just a math problem. 💰

Ways to take a step towards healthier, more fulfilling relationships. 🤗

Remember, your well-being and peace of mind are worth it. So join me on this insightful journey this week.

Let's have an honest heart-to-heart.

Healing isn’t the absence of uncomfortable feelings. It’s all about how you handle hard times.

If you're expecting to reach a point where you're completely healed, never having to deal with your past traumas again, well, I hate to break it to you, but that's setting yourself up for disappointment. Because being human means experiencing the full spectrum of emotions.

Personal and spiritual growth includes those moments when you fall apart, have a good cry, cancel appointments because you're having a rough day, and just accept that life doesn't always go according to plan. It's about going with the flow, even when the current feels more like a stormy sea.

You see, when we resist change or try to suppress our emotions, that's when life's challenges become even harder to bear. But here's the silver lining—no one has to navigate life alone, without help.

So, today, let's chat about all of this and more. It feels like the perfect time for a little check-in. So, get cozy, grab your favorite drink, and let's have a chat. I'll fill you in on what's been happening in my life and how I've been navigating it.

In this episode, we'll chat about:

How small wins are indicators of BIG changes.

Ways to support yourself and others during challenging seasons.

Healthy independence in relationships.

Life as a fire wife.

And here's a gentle reminder – always be kind to yourself. If you're going through a challenging season, lean on your tools, whether it's through writing, seeking coaching, connecting with your support system, getting in touch with your spiritual side, or perhaps a combination of all of the above.

You've got this!

This world has been feeling a bit chaotic lately, and it’s understandable if you’ve been overwhelmed.

I’m right there with you.

That’s why I have asked Dr. Debbie Victoria Seale, chiropractor and clairvoyant, to join me on the podcast this week to talk about anxiety and stress relief during these challenging times.

Listen to...

Receive a healing for anxiety from Dr. Debbie.

Discover how to heal yourself and help others.

Understand what to do when you feel hurt or under pressure.

Get a guided heart connection meditation from Mrs. Hard.

We want to help you call in that good, good calm energy.

When you invest in your well-being and focus on your healing journey, you help heal the planet. Remember, we are all interconnected.

This week, I share about my experience with alcoholism.

Up until November 2015, I struggled with alcohol abuse. This disease made me a victim of my surroundings. It wasn’t until things were spiraling that I was willing to make a change.

This brings me to one of our discussion topics…

It’s not cold or unkind to let people fall when they are unwilling to help themselves or in the throws of addiction.

When we love someone, we don’t want them to feel pain. However, this can lead us to sacrifice our own needs and desires to keep others afloat.

From personal experience, I am thankful that no one shielded me from my pain. Discomfort has been a profound teacher. Hard times were crucial in forging the amazing life I have today. Without the tools I learned to leave alcohol behind, I would not have the resources to handle life’s challenges in a healthy way.

In this episode, we’ll chat about:

Addiction—why some people become addicted to alcohol, drugs, food, etc.

What an alcoholic or addict needs to change.

How to let go of harmful coping mechanisms.

How to create harmony in unhealthy relationships.

How to practice detachment in a kind and loving way.

It’s a conversation filled with insight and wisdom that will offer you valuable guidance in your journey toward greater harmony in your challenging relationships.

Grief can be a beast and a constant companion, but what if you could establish a healthy relationship with it?

Tune in to this episode as I unpack my personal experiences, share how I've managed to maintain a connection with my mother after her passing, and discuss my journey towards forgiveness, understanding, and acceptance.

Take away some coping mechanisms to handle your grief and learn how to be kind to yourself during tough times.

Believe me, grief is not a straight line but a winding path, and I hope my experiences can help you navigate yours.

In this episode, we're diving into Shawna's amazing journey—from her work with Bombooty to her personal experience with postpartum psychosis.

Shawna's heart-opening story about her battle with postpartum psychosis is nothing short of inspiring. It's a topic that's rarely talked about, and her courage in sharing about it is a shining light for anyone facing similar challenges.

When you feel like you're the only one facing a difficult situation, the emotional burden can be overwhelming. Shawna's story reminds us that we're never truly alone on our path.

We'll explore Shawna's coping strategies, including the concept of 'surrender,' which played a crucial role in her healing process. She shares how her identity and journey through motherhood were shaped by her experiences.

But that's not all—we also delve into the transformative power of movement and music in Shawna's healing process. Dance played a significant role in reawakening parts of herself that had been closed off, contributing immensely to her recovery.

This episode is a heartfelt, enlightening conversation that I believe you'll find incredibly valuable. So tune in to gain insights into the power of resilience, healing, and the importance of not walking your journey alone.

Are you ready to shake things up?

This week, we're diving into the world of Bombooty through movement, self-love, and empowerment with the incredible Shawna Mox, the creator of Bombooty.

Shawna's Bombooty classes and workshops aren't just a workout. They are an electrifying and playful journey that allows you to reconnect with your feminine energy. It's about embracing your wild, fun, and silly side, all while feeling sexy and empowered.

In this episode, we explore:

How you can find healing through movement.

The fascinating origins of twerking… That’s right, it actually has to do with ancient ceremonies and trauma release.

A dance party workout experience like no other merged with the beauty of feminine embodiment – moving in a way that feels good to you.

Shawna takes us on a captivating journey where we challenge stereotypes and explore the athletic and therapeutic benefits of twerking. We dive back into its African roots, discovering that it's not just about looking sexy but a profound tool for emotional release.

But that's not all!

Stay tuned because this is just Part 1 of our conversation.

In the second half, Shawna opens up about her experience with postpartum psychosis – a truly eye-opening and heartfelt discussion you won't want to miss.

So grab your headphones, find a comfy spot, and let's embark on this inspiring journey together! 🌠

On this episode, Lisa Fonville, Kelley Lotosky, and Mrs. Hard invite you into the mystical world of Poppy & Quill Retreats.

You will receive an exclusive sneak peek into the transformative experiences that unfold within these sacred spaces.

We delve into the significance of female connection, the rejuvenation of your soul, and the art of tuning into your inner wisdom—equipping you with valuable tools to lean in and listen to the whispers of your authentic self, right here, right now.

To kickstart this mystical journey, we draw an Oracle Card, igniting a transformative exploration within.

So, prepare to embark on a voyage of self-discovery with us.

It's time to get wonderfully weird as we explore the magical and the mystical.