Ep. 11- Clairvoyance and Healing Your Relationships with Dr. Debbie Victoria-Seale
EPISODE 11-
Clairvoyance and Healing Your Relationships
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What if there was a way to navigate relationship conflicts and communicate our needs effectively, using the power of psychic healing? This is no hypothetical question; it's the basis of our enlightening conversation with Dr. Debbie Victoria-Seale.
Dr. Debbie is a low-force chiropractor and clairvoyant healer who shares her fascinating outlook on relationships, communication, and personal growth. Dr. Debbie's transformative experiences, from striving to create an ideal relationship in college to her 26-year strong marriage, give us valuable lessons on the power of mutual respect and communication in ensuring longevity in relationships.
During the first half of this episode, we talk about…
>> How understanding your feelings can help you establish healthy boundaries.
>> Strategies to navigate conflicts and voice your needs in a manner that encourages understanding and respect.
>> How to talk openly with your partner when communication is a challenge.
In the second half of this episode, Dr. Debbie gifts us with a Clairvoyant Healing.
This meditation healing is for everyone listening and will continue working in your life for two weeks after you hear it.
(This is my favorite part.)
We chat about psychic energy, colors, vibrations, and their healing properties.
Dr. Debbie shares how you can release disrupting vibrations and invite more harmonious energy into your lives with psychic tools.
Are you ready to get spiritual?
Connect with us in this enlightening episode and explore tools to create relationship success, personal growth, and joy.
Get in touch with Dr. Debbie On Instagram @Doctor_Debbie_Napa
On Facebook @Debbie Victoria Seale
Or visit her website:
https://drdvsdc.com/meet-dr-debbie
You can message her on Instagram or her website to set up a Clairvoyant healing or a chiropractic appointment.
Full Transcript:
Did you know you can use psychic tools to release energy that is blocking your communication in your relationships? That's right, you heard me correctly. Today we're going to get down with the woo and talk about the power of healing your relationships through clairvoyance, a gift we all have. In this episode, my guest Niaq discuss effective strategies to navigate conflicts, initiate conversations and communicate our needs in a manner that encourages understanding and respect. Shifting gears. We immerse ourselves in the world of psychic healing. We discuss techniques for meditation and healing aimed at connecting with your inner light and releasing lingering energies. Halfway through the episode, my guest gives us with a clairvoyant healing meditation that will help all who are listening work through the energy that may be blocking them in their relationships. We cover a lot in a short amount of time, so get ready to journey with us as we discuss the physical, non-physical and everything in between. Let's dive in. Hi, I'm Allesanda Tolomei-Hard, aka Mrs Hard, and this is Hard Times no More, a podcast for people who are tired of struggling with boundaries, people-pleasing and relationship problems. I have overcome some hard times. Within three years, I stopped drinking, my mom died of cancer and my house burnt down in a California wildfire, and those are just the highlights. I have a lot of reasons to be miserable, but I'm not. The truth is, life was more challenging before these events happened. If you are tired of waiting for your circumstances to change to find happiness and peace of mind, you are in the right place. Join me as I share the tools I use and love to transform challenges into assets and interview others about their relationship journeys. Together, let's learn how to have a happy life full of healthy, meaningful relationships, and say goodbye to hard times for good. Hey everyone, welcome to the Hard Times no More Relationship podcast. I'm Mrs Hard, your host. Today we have a very special guest. Her name is Dr Debbie Victoria Seale. She's an amazing low-force chiropractor and clairvoyant healer. Welcome to the show, dr Debbie. Hey, nice to see you, alessandra, I'm happy to be here, thank you. So on this show we like to talk about how to overcome relationship challenges. Can you speak to a challenging relationship from your past and how you moved through it and how it served you in the long run?
Speaker 2: 2:46
I was thinking about this the other day and looking back on my romantic relationships and how that first showed up for me when I was in college and fell into a relationship. That was really not my manifestation, I thought, but being so young and inexperienced decided to go with the flow, and one of the big things was in that relationship was I did everything in my power to make it perfect, I did everything in my power to make the other person happy and I was just following his lead and then it came to the point where I saw that there was nothing that he was contributing and I felt myself also moving away and it started to fall apart and there's other things there that really destroyed it. But one of the things that I've learned over time is that in order to be in a successful relationship, both people have to be present. You have to be able to ask for what you want, you have to be able to dream for yourself and together. It's an agreement between two people and unless you're both participating in that and finding yourself and allowing the other person to find themselves and come together in that, I think that that's what a true relationship is. Now my anniversary is coming up with my husband and it's 26 years this year.
Speaker 1: 4:48
Congratulations, that's amazing.
Speaker 2: 4:51
It is amazing that blows me away 26 years. So how did we get there? And I think one of the big things is we know that it's okay for one person to be the person that needs help we're all going to go through struggles in our lives and for the other person to say you're the most important person in my life and I want to support you in your time of need, and vice versa.
Speaker 1: 5:21
Have you always felt that way in your relationship with your husband?
Speaker 2: 5:25
I think from the beginning, because we came together on a mutual picture of us both loving healing and us both learning to find ourselves through healing. That was one of the things that connected us very strongly when we first got together. It definitely takes work. I mean, one of the things that we both learned to do was not go to bed angry, be okay with being angry and not seeing the other person's point of view, but trying to work through. What is it that I've contributed to this? What is it that I am asking for? And being willing to ask, being willing to say and also being willing to say I understand that's not so healthy either. One part of your ask might be a place where you don't feel, after you've thought about it, that it's in the healthiest of presentations. So just being willing to make mistakes but being willing to communicate, I think is a big thing, and you know there's times where I know I don't communicate and he knows he doesn't communicate and you know he'll come back and say I'm sorry. You know I was thinking about this and I've neglected this. Or I've come back and said you know I'm really sorry. I know that you've been working hard and I know why you feel the way you did. You know. So, really just to honor the other person and come back to that place where you know, even if you feel like the other person's growing or you're growing and they're growing apart, remember why you got together, remember who they are and when you come from that place of who they are and who you truly are, not this concept of what it's supposed to look like. You know, I know that when I was younger, excuse me, it was that place of oh, a woman is supposed to do this and a man is supposed to do that, and our relationship is supposed to look like this.
Speaker 1: 7:31
Was your first relationship that you talked about more like that. Coming from that perspective, yes, oh, absolutely. In what changed your mind about that perspective?
Speaker 2: 7:39
I think part of it is I matured and I started to see how I mean it fell apart because of things beyond my control and I was just growing distant because I think I was finally starting to find myself and seeing myself in the world. You know, after I graduated from college, was able to see myself in the world and relate to people on a different level than just my family, and being able to see who I was made me realize I'm not getting my needs met and that person doesn't respect me, let alone. You know. I don't know what that love was at that time, but there certainly wasn't respect and I believe respect is a big part of love.
Speaker 1: 8:26
Yeah, when I was in a really challenging relationship similar to the one that you're describing, it was that I had low self-esteem and that the person I was dating was validating that internal low self-esteem to me and was pretty much living out my deepest fears in my mind. And so I thought it was true, because I thought this person was validating that perspective and if only I could get that person to love me unconditionally and accept me as who I was, then I would experience the healing from that internal dialogue and then I would be enough. And it wasn't until after the relationship that I was able to see that, that I was giving my power over to that person. And it ended up being such a gift being with that person because, even though I brought my self-esteem after the relationship even lower and I went through a process of finding my own self-worth and kind of climbing out of that hole, which was uncomfortable at the time, but in the long run it served me well, right.
Speaker 2: 9:37
I believe we bring people into our lives so we can learn things about ourselves, and that's the cool thing about relationships and any kind of relationships, and I think that when you're with that person at the grocery store, where you're chatting about the day and the weather, it really teaches you something about who you are, and I think that it's so valuable, which is why I think it's so important for us to strive to have relationships and even if it's you know, maybe you're really shy to have this one friend. She's a doctor, and she says I'm not dating anyone, I am too shy. And I said but you're a doctor, you know, you know how to speak with people, you know, just make friends with the person at the grocery store and maybe you like them and you come back and say, hey, you know, it's a great day. And next time you go back and go, it's a great day. Hey, what time do you get off? You want to go grab some coffee. And it doesn't have to be a romantic relationship, but it can be a friendship and it can be a learning how to relate to people and it's okay that you're shy, but I think that as human beings, we're made to be in relationship and I believe relationships are where we learn most about ourselves. The hardest thing is, I think, is coming out of that victimization that we put into our head, because our bodies always want to be, are always in survival and are always trying to protect us and to get beyond where our minds are taking us and try to find the core of who we really are and what we really want and ask for it in a gentle, kind, thoughtful way, not demanding. But that is where we can really shine.
Speaker 1: 11:30
I think people have a hard time identifying what that is, though, because I agree with you that there's a subconscious victimization narrative that comes in with our inner critic and tells us, oh, like, if I put myself out there I'll look ridiculous or I'll make a mistake, and it keeps us afraid. How do we move past that narrative? And with the doctor, like I remember when I was more fearful in life, I could operate socially fine at work, but in terms of like outside, more laid-back social friend gatherings, I would get overwhelmed if there was more than like, three or four people, because at work there was a script. But then when I went out into the real world, if there were more than three people, I would kind of get overwhelmed by the energy, especially because I'm empathic and feel a lot and I didn't have boundaries energetically at that time. Right, you've helped me a lot with those boundaries. How do you think, energetically they can like move through that narrative and like be aware of it and then change it? Do you know what I mean?
Speaker 2: 12:33
by that Right. So when you feel all these thoughts that come up in your head, those are those limitations and controls that just want to keep you stuck, realize that is, you know, maybe practice with a friend. Like, hey, alessandra, there's this guy that I like and I'm so scared and maybe can I practice you being him. Hi Hi, it's a nice day, and yeah. And then you take a breath and you say, um, maybe sometime we can like go next door to pizza and get coffee. You know, get it out, it's okay. Everybody's nervous. I mean, that person's probably as nervous as you are. Yeah, you know, and we're all people and we all make mistakes and sometimes it's endearing too. So you have to realize that it doesn't have to be perfect. You just have to be true, and maybe one day you don't do it and maybe you just get up your nerve again. But you know, don't overthink it. Take a breath, sit in your car and get grounded before you go into the store and you see that guy that you like and you want to ask out for coffee. And you know that's the cool thing in this day and age you don't have to wait for the guy to ask you. You can go and you can ask them and you know, or maybe there's a woman that you like and you can ask them and say, hey, what are you doing this afternoon after work? Oh, that's great. Okay, great, Maybe sometime after work when you're done. I'm free at that time. How about on Tuesday? Yeah, you know, and it's okay if you make a mistake, if you feel stupid. Oh, I should have done this, I should have, but you tried, you put yourself out there. That's how you're going to make change. Yeah, it's just practice. I mean, it doesn't matter. That's what happened when my husband first asked me out. He called me goes, hi, want to go out sometime? Sure, great. How about Friday? Okay, great, bye. That's how it was, and I said yes, and 26 years later, he's still my best friend and we still really like each other and love each other, because we realize that we're both human and in order to, and we're committed. And that's the thing that's that you really have to do is say what, what is ultimately, what do you want? And see that, let's create it. You know what's in the way of that? And and people get into that place where they think the other, they are in conflict and they think the other person is your enemy. They want the same things. You do always go back to the beginning and remember what drew you to this person. Who are they? What are their dreams? You know, continue to talk along the way so that you don't get far away from each other. You know, if you want your primary relationship to work, it does. You can't just live together and expect to that. You're going to be together 26 years. You're going to be bored and out of your mind and end up hating each other?
Speaker 1: 15:44
Have you gone through phases where you've been more distant from your husband?
Speaker 2: 15:47
You know, the thing is is that we, we allow each other to have our separate lives too, but yet we know that the weekend is our time, that's family time, even when our kids at college, you know, we're able to know that that's our time. We come together doesn't mean that we can't do things with other people, but I always strive and both of us always strive to make sure we at least have a meal together, we at least, you know, do something fun together, so that we're reconnecting and re grounding for the week, because I rarely see him during the week.
Speaker 1: 16:29
Last week on this on this podcast, we talked about conflict and how to handle conflict in your relationship with your significant other and challenging people. How do you and your husband handle conflict other than not going to bed angry, right?
Speaker 2: 16:43
So I have to say, you know, I'll think of a time where I felt like he hurt my feelings or I wasn't heard. So I will go into the other room and allow myself to process those where there. You know, for me, I get to a place where I have to release it, let go cry, ground my energy and try to look at it from a more neutral space and always coming back to that place when I, when I do want to go back and talk to him, say, hey, this is how I feel. That's something that's really hard for me is to ask for what I want. But I it's really helped me over the years being able to ask for what I want, and that way I'm not blaming him, but I am saying this is how I feel. By me doing that he's able to say oh, I'm sorry, I didn't mean it. That way I understand what you're saying, so that we're not blaming the other person, we're not becoming a victim. All we're saying is this is how I feel when you said so and so or when you did this, and so that's honestly. that's the formula that's always worked for us.
Speaker 1: 18:06
What would you say to either a best friend or a client if they had a partner that wasn't as open as your husband is and wasn't as great at communicating? Because you gave me great advice one time with my husband he used to shut down more and he and I had different communication styles and you suggested that we go for a long drive and talk about challenging things during that time, because then we're not looking face to face and it gives that person kind of room to breathe and less pressure. What other things would you recommend to somebody who has a partner who's not as open?
Speaker 2: 18:47
So find out when they are open. Like you know, this is one of the things I learned about raising a teenager. That's where I learned that trick, so to speak, is, you know, in the car we have great conversations because we're not face to face and we're able to just free flow and allow things to happen that way. And with teenagers they come alive at night. They're nocturnal animals, right. So I've learned to. That's the time where you can have those deep conversations, and that's my husband's that way too. He is not and he has to have some time after work. He's not a person that you know. You can come at him in the morning right away with something. You have to learn your timings. So I told my son this let's wait to talk to daddy before we ask him about this, because he needs to have his space. You know he's a very busy guy and he's got a lot on his plate. So you find out when they're in that place of openness. That's a time where you say what I think would be fun for us is if we maybe we tried a different restaurant, like once a month. You know, because you wanted to have that face to face time with him more often and for us as a family, that's a great time because somebody else is taking care of everything. You're able to just let go and enjoy the environment and the food and not have to clean up and all of that stuff. It's a great time to connect and it becomes more social. So those are the times that you choose to open up those conversations and not attacking, but coming from that places. This is what I was thinking. You know, this is my dream. I'd like to see this. This would be fun and you see that the person doesn't have as many boundaries because they're more in an open space. So choose that for yourself and you know, you're feeling better too, so you're able to speak more freely. And that's what I think is don't go to them when they're you know, when they're doing the thing. Let's say let's say you get mad because they put the dishes in the sink and don't wash them. Don't say don't do that again, you're doing that again because all you're doing is creating conflict. Just wait, maybe you go, isn't it when you go out to dinner next time? Isn't it great that somebody else does the dishes you know and say you know, it'd be really helpful. And it kind of makes me stressed. When there's dirty dishes in the sink, would you mind putting them directly in the dishwasher? And they might say, sure, and maybe not even do it next time. But you can just laugh about it and then try again. But when you come in that open space where you're both open, rather than going in where the conflict is, for me that works better.
Speaker 1: 21:33
Yeah, and I love how you talk about laughing about it, like I love how you have this energy about life where you don't take things too seriously. You're able to just like laugh at the fact we're humans. We don't hear each other sometimes or act the way our significant others want us to, but that's just like part of the human deal, right.
Speaker 2: 21:54
That's, that's cool, it is true, and that's one thing I learned about myself is just to laugh at it and to you know, take some time and you don't have to sit even though you're boiling at them. You're boiling at that moment and you want to scream about those dishes. In reality, if you give it some time and you know if it was you doing something that the other person looked like, it's no big deal. It's dishes. I care about you. I want our environment to be beautiful, you know it's. Isn't it relaxing when you come downstairs in the morning and the kitchen's a spotless? Yeah, absolutely, I want that too. You know, sorry I'm. I know I was just a little stressed because of work and that's why I left my dishes there. You know I was planning on doing it the next morning or something like that. You know, and and Rila and talk, ask for what you want. Well, it's important to me when I come down in the morning that it's clean, because then I can start my day and I'm not so stressed. Yeah, you know, then you're asking for what you want and the other person really sees what's important rather than screaming at them. Don't put the dishes there again. Yeah, you know, because then they're. They're in a place where they can't hear you.
Speaker 1: 23:02
And I love how you talked about, like, your why, like why you would want them to do the dishes, because it makes you feel less stressed. You know, because I feel like sometimes, when you're in a relationship with somebody, you expect that they just know you and read your mind and we forget to tell them why. And I feel like the why is so impactful and expressing what we want. That was such a big hurdle for me for so long because, like, I didn't know what I wanted other than for others to be happy and for there to be peace and for everybody to be okay, and I didn't realize how my worth was tied in to everyone else. I actually had a subconscious feeling that I actually wanted to be helping others all the time and, like, if I wasn't helping others, then what was my purpose? And so it was like this challenge where I, like needed to be of service, to feel valued, but I wanted everyone to be okay and, in this dream world, wanted them to function without me. That all had to do with self-worth and finding my own healing, knowing that I was like enough, just being who I am and existing without others needing something Right.
Speaker 2: 24:18
When you allow somebody to be full in themselves of who they are. That allows you to be full in yourself and feel the fullness of who you are. The truth of who you are and I believe that that's how we grow and how we're able to shine in our relationships is by allowing our partner to be who they are, be human, be make mistakes. We all have wounds, we all have pain, and underneath that is just this beauty that that we're all striving for and realize that it's okay, we're gonna make mistakes, we're gonna be afraid to ask the other person, we're gonna be afraid to ask for what we want, but when you do it with kindness and with trust and with faith that you're gonna be seen and the other person's gonna see you I mean, you're gonna see them, they're gonna see you Then there's a mutuality that you can both come together in. Okay, so I feel like we're coming up against the blockages. Let's just have you go ahead, everybody. If you're not driving, please, I'm going to close your eyes and I'm gonna lead you through a healing for this, for relationships. I'm gonna start with a short prayer, maybe with the blessings of the Supreme being that she shine her countenance upon us and bring us peace and body, mind and spirit. Okay, so, looking at our relationship space and this is for us as a community here the first thing I see is this level of unconsciousness, and what that means is that we're not able to see and feel and hear our own truth. So I'm gonna move that energy it looks like kind of looks like fog above and I'm gonna talk. I'm gonna talk in psychic speak, but if there's ever anything that you want clarification on, I'm happy to give that to you later. So we're gonna move that unconsciousness out of the way. And underneath that is a beautiful, clear, blue energy. That's in our seventh chakra, that's above our head, and what we're looking at is that blue energy is what we know deep, deep, deep inside in our soul, beyond even this body, what we know to be true and allowing ourselves to understand that that, even though we have separate bodies, we still have this knowingness, this consciousness that connects us all to our divinity and that divinity is part of who we are and that's how we express our grace in our lives. Now, realize this is not religious that I'm talking about. This is spiritual. This is what connects us all. We have a physical body and a spiritual body and we're working on our spirit. Right now there is another level of unconsciousness that comes into our what's called our sixth chakra. This is where we can see our own truth Moving that out of the way. There's some gray energy where we focus on the conflict, where we focus on the need, where we focus on the hurt. We're gonna let that go and we're bringing in a beautiful green color. This green allows us to grow, allows us to flourish in our own truth, in our communications with ourselves first and then with others, and to see each other's truth Coming down. I see in the fifth chakra this is our communication space there's some red energy there where we get stuck in that hurt, where we get stuck in the pain. Underneath that is a beautiful, light, blue, sparkly energy, and this is being able to speak from that which connects us to each other, to recognize that in each other and to be heard and to be seen in that energy Whew, coming down. I'm looking at some energy that's in our relationship space in our second chakra and I'm helping us clear out that place where we feel like we have to take everybody's projects on before we can have a true relationship, before we can have the relationship we want. And that's just where we feel like we have to heal each other's pain, and we don't. No one can truly heal someone else. We heal ourselves and then we can allow others to see that and they can heal themselves. That's really where the honesty and the truth lies in relationships. Yeah, so in relationships we're truly healing ourselves, and that's what the answer is and that's how we can come into a place of that mutuality, and that truth is where we can present ourselves in that truth and that's where a true relationship is focused. A true relationship is focused. That's beautiful. Okay, so I'm over your head. I'm going to just ask you to see again that big gold sun and poke that big gold sun. Allow it to fill you up your head, your shoulders, your torso, your hips, your legs and in and around your aura. Let me look at what's called our next step. Our next step is in a beautiful pink, with that vibrant green and some gold, and that next step is to practice asking for what you need and for what you want in that place of mutuality, but looking at yourself first, because when you heal yourself, that's where your answer is and how you do. That is to answer the questions that your body is asking. I need a nap, I need some clean food, I need you to go for a walk. You can always ask your body what is it that you need right now? What is that small thing? Sometimes it looks like dark chocolate and that's good, awesome. So that's our next step and we're going to all be working that, regardless of when you hear this, we're going to be working that for like two weeks. So in the next couple of weeks, just remember this color. That's the only color you need to remember and you don't need to wear it. Just remind yourself every now and then that pink, with that bright green and gold, that color will bring you back to this healing and allow your body to feel comfortable as you make these changes. So good job, all right, maybe, with the blessings of the Supreme being, this healing is complete and everyone. Just go ahead and open your eyes and stretch a little bit. Good job. That was amazing, thank you.
Speaker 1: 33:06
I would love for you to talk a little bit about what the colors mean in clairvoyant terms.
Speaker 2: 33:13
Okay, so, colors are vibrations. We know that, like, black is a non-color or all the colors. So oftentimes you see in like if you go to a big city, a lot of people will be wearing black because there's so much energy around us that we want to put on the black to deflect that energy. You go to, let's say, a tropical place or even the place that we live in in the Napa Valley, and it's so bright here in the summer we have sun. Most of the year we're wearing lighter colors, white, often, when it's really hot. You never want to put on a black pair of jeans and a T-shirt because it feels like you're soaking in all of that energy and you want to deflect it. So the light energy kind of helps you feel a little lighter yourself. So colors have a vibration. We know that and when colors come up in a reading or a healing, they're a vibration. And so when I say I see this color or I see I see you releasing this color and I see you bringing in this color, they are vibrations of what you're letting go of and what you're bringing in and spiritually you recognize this. So as a human being you don't need to remember. Oh yeah, you know that red means. What did she say? Don't worry about it, you're getting it in the moment. So that color is releasing and generally it's going to be a more dense color. It's going to be a darker color. This is what you're bringing in. Generally it's going to be a lighter color, brighter color. Some colors have like sparkliness to them, and that's why I say sparkly, because I don't know how else to define it and so I'll just say like sparkly pink, because sometimes they have that vibration to them, and so that's what colors mean. They don't. I don't subscribe to every shocker has a different color. I just look at and see what you're letting go of and what you're bringing in, and so colors can set the tone. Whenever I'm doing a healing or a reading, or like we ended this in what I said, what our next step was, our next step in relationship, is that pink with that sparkly green and gold. That color combination is what we know as spirit in the relation to this healing, what we did and what we're going forth with. So it's almost like like a badge we're going to wear for the next couple of weeks. You can think about that color over now in them, but you don't need to worry about it. Yeah, does that make sense? Oh, yeah, okay.
Speaker 1: 36:06
So how you learned this practice Sure?
Speaker 2: 36:11
So when I was little, my mom told me this story. Of course, I don't really recall it, but she told me this story when I was I would say probably, if I'm remembering right, when I was about 18 months or so. I could stand up, I couldn't really talk, but I was starting to formulate words and she said she would often catch me standing up in my crib and babbling to someone. Like they were there, I was having this one-on-one conversation and what she my mother always had some psychic leanings as well. She would always say, oh yeah, I can walk into the church. And no, because we were always Catholic, I walk into the church and I knew that there was death there, because I could smell it. That was her psychic leaning and she always had these. She'd always tell me, and later on in life she would tell me other stories about people that she would see at the foot of her bed. She said like yeah, I'm not afraid of them. There was this one time there was this guy in a Hawaiian shirt and he was just standing there and she said I looked at him and I'm like, what are you doing here? And then he just disappeared and she would tell me about all these people that come and visit her. But she didn't know them, and so you know, my mother always had psychic leanings and she'd never know how to describe them. But once I learned I would be able to explain them to her. But that's where my psychic ability started. And then, when I went to chiropractic school, one of my friends came back and said hey, I went and I got this healing and I got this stuff moved out of my head and I feel amazing. And I looked at him and I'm like I want to go, can I come with you? He says you should just go. So I grabbed one of my friends and we went and we got a healing and a reading and it was amazing and I said I need to do this stuff. So, alongside my chiropractic schooling, I also validated my psychic abilities. Now the thing is is that I don't have anything different than you have. You have this ability. You can find and develop this for yourself. Anyone can. We all have this. You've heard of the sixth sense. Right, we have this sense. I don't think of it as anything weird or different, because we all have it, but I've learned how to use it and help others in my life. My whole focus is on helping people find their wellness. Through the work that I do, find out who they are, allow their body and their spirit to come together and live life fully, and that's what I've done for myself. I feel like I found my own answers through this. So it's not only a great tool that I can use in my practice to help others, but it allows me to inform my life. I feel like because I know more now, because I'm able to look at a situation, see the truth of that situation, without inserting my thoughts or my experience into it. It's from a neutral place. I'm able to understand what that means for me, what that means to my life. Does it apply to me, does it not? So you learn these tools and you can use them in everyday life. So what I do is I teach people. The thing is, I can teach you everything that I know, maybe in a couple of weeks, but it took me years to learn how to do this. I mean, I've been in practice like what? 30 years now. But it takes practice and you will get what's called lit up on all your pictures around this stuff. So what I do is I help my students. Because I do teach this. I help my students learn how to work that energy and I help them by giving them energy checks so that they can take these steps and utilize them without everything getting all fired up. I don't know how else to say this, but life will come and your way and start slamming you against the wall with issues of the energy that you're trying to work. We move those things out of the way so you can access all of your energy, and that's how I see it, and so that's why I love what I do, because I help people find their wellness. Even in my chiropractic work is finding who they are in their bodies, like your body brings up this stuff and we need to move it out of the way so you can allow that flow from above down inside out. You have that ability to heal yourself and as a spirit you have the ability to heal yourself. You just need a little bit of help. It's like I go in there and I poke on those things and show you and go, look at that energy that was from a past life where you were stuck, you know, working really hard, and you think that in this lifetime you still have to do that. That's only a piece of the picture, and the way that you work hard is allowing your dreams and hopes and whatever you want to create. You allow it to happen and then you follow the flow. It's different than pushing and taking that pickaxe and working through the rock, so you're no longer stuck in that lifetime where you had to physically work to move that rock out of the way. This is your life now. This is where you are. Now you can just allow the flow and then you just follow it. It's a whole different energy and the cool thing is to be able to be witness, to watch people see who they really are and see that glow. It's been amazing. It's an amazing tool for me and I love teaching people because then they find these. They have this little spiritual toolbox that you can use in everyday life, like you can use, let's say, with the. We were talking about how to initiate that relationship. There's someone that you want to date, let's say a guy, like we said, the guy at the grocery store. Okay, so let's say you want to ask that guy in the grocery store and you have your spiritual tools and you go. I'm going to ground myself before I go and ask that guy in the grocery store. What I'm going to do is I'm going to make sure, give myself a golden sun and I'm going to blow some roses so I can move the energy out of this, out of my space. That makes me feel like I'm not worthy. Well, maybe I'm going to oh, there's a past life that was lit up. I'm going to make sure I I bring that past life into present time so that I can bring all of my energy back in that gold sun and I feel more confident and calm and calm in myself and I can easily go up and ask that guy so you're working all that mental and that spiritual energy in your body, so you have more of yourself. Because when we think this lack, when we think this pain, when we think this, oh no, all of that is energy and so we're able to move that energy out of the way and really understand this is who I am. And when you can show yourself to another person in that way, they see who you are and they can match that or they can't.
Speaker 1: 43:31
Yeah. And it becomes like very obvious, because the person either lights up because you're happy and expressing lightness, or they don't know what to do with it, and then they like can't receive it or can't see you, or then there's friction and you can like lean into whatever energy comes up and trust that as, oh, the universe is showing me that this is right, or the universe is showing me that this isn't right for me right now.
Speaker 2: 43:58
Right and it's okay, yeah, because you know who you are. So, let's, let's say what we're going to do for a while is fake it till you make it, but not in a bad way, in a good way. So I'm going to teach you one little, one little fun thing. Let's, let's do this. This is a simple tool that you can use on an everyday basis, and it really does help. It helps me all the time. Close your eyes again. So what I wanted you to do is I want you to drop your energy as low in your body. Well, let's say, drop your energy into your belly. Just just allow yourself to drop yourself into your belly. Now I want you to imagine that you're bringing your energy up into the center of your head, which is right behind your third eye, right behind your forehead. If you were to find that center point, bring your energy up there, take a breath. Notice how that feels. Now drop your energy back into your belly and take a breath. Ok, let's see Awesome Science again. Correct, here it is now Okay. Notice how that feels. So your energy bring it back up into the center of your head is much lighter. When you have trouble doing this, look at a tree and think about how a tree strives upward towards the light. That's what we're going to do is strive upwards towards the light, and it is like a game changer. Right away it changes your mood. When we drop down into our belly, we're dropping into effort, and that's where most of us live. We have to in the real world in order to get things done in our bodies, but when you are stuck in those pictures, it feels very dense and hard to get along. So if you bring your energy up, like a tree strives toward the light, you're coming into the center of your head, which is your own truth. It's much lighter up there. So that's a great tool that you can use, a very simple one.
Speaker 1: 46:05
Yeah, I love it. I love it. And earlier, when you were talking about blowing roses, that's a different tool for people listening. And then grounding is when you drop what's called a grounding core into the core of the earth and feel connection to the earth into the ground beneath your feet.
Speaker 2: 46:26
So there's yeah, and if anyone is coming up against anything, that because of me teaching you those tools. That's when you know it's right. It's time to come take some classes with me.
Speaker 1: 46:41
Yeah, and coming up, coming up against means meeting resistance in life, or like not being able to access this feeling, or like feeling lost when you try to drop into this meditation or use these meditation tools for yourself. And Dr Debbie has shared a meditation, healing and then a little awareness practice, and so those are the tools that we're talking about today.
Speaker 2: 47:07
And I know there's things that came up. I went through pretty quickly. I wanted to just show you what a healing would look like.
Speaker 1: 47:16
Yeah, and it's so exciting and I love how excited you get about it and it's just such an amazing gift. It's really, really helped me because I've known you for since 2016. Oh my gosh, yeah, that's awesome. And you've helped me so much with my mom's passing, healing around, letting her connect with a supreme being and move out of my space. And it was so cool because you taught me that sometimes we call energies into our space that aren't ours and even if they're as loving as our parents that have passed, if they hang out in our space too long we'll get depressed and sad because we take on the work that they're doing, and or that's how I've understood it. And then also you've checked in with me, especially recently, about how my mom is still doing work on the other side as a spirit and a soul, and it's cool to hear that people, when they pass, they're still doing spiritual work, and you've told me that her work is going very well.
Speaker 2: 48:19
She's doing great. She loves being up there, yeah, so that's a whole other conversation. We'll have to join other podcasts.
Speaker 1: 48:26
Yeah, I know, I know it's so cool, it's so fascinating.
Speaker 2: 48:31
That's very cool. So what you were talking about like when you have other energies in your space it's kind of like putting diesel in your car when you have a gasoline engine. So that's how you can liken it to and that's what I teach you is how to find your own brand of energy and how to let go of what's not yours, because we all do it. It happens on a moment to moment basis, whether someone's around you or not. Even if we're isolated by ourselves, there's always energy around us and in us that doesn't belong to us and we feel so much more joyful. That's our natural state. That's how we're supposed to be. We're not here to work to make money yeah, we do that to survive in our lives, but why we're here is to be joyful. That's our whole purpose. So if you feel you're not finding that high level of joy in your life not saying that you have to be delirious every time and you're not going to be that way, but really being joyful is our natural state that's our natural state as spiritual beings in a human body.
Speaker 1: 49:39
I love it. Yeah, I love it. Well, thanks so much for coming on the show today and sharing so much with us.
Speaker 2: 49:47
Yeah you, it's been so amazing. I love you all. Thank you.